I’m a big fan of synthetic oil. I use it in all my cars. There are many reasons I love it. One, is that it doesn’t need to be changed as often as regular oil. Less hassle + less time = winner! But, the main reason I like synthetic oil is that it simply works better. Its viscosity doesn’t break down as quickly and therefore lubricates engines better… even if one were to forget to change it as often as it should.
Peter Drucker, father of modern management theory, once said…
“Manners are the lubricating oil of an organization. It is a law of nature that two moving bodies in contact with each other create friction. This is as true for human beings as it is for inanimate objects. Manners- simple things like saying ‘please’ and ‘thank you’ and knowing a person’s name or asking after her family enable two people to work together whether they like each other or not. Bright people, especially bright young people, often do not understand this. If analysis shows that someone’s brilliant work fails again and again as soon as cooperation from others is required, it probably indicates a lack of courtesy – that is, a lack of manners.”
This past (and unfortunately current) COVID season has brought out the ugly side of many people. With polarized views on masks, vaccines, politics, social injustices, foreign wars, etc. we have a myriad of opportunities to demonstrate good manners. Always remember, just because you don’t agree with someone doesn’t give you the right to be a jerk.
Manners are ALWAYS the higher road. It doesn’t matter how strongly you believe something or how much data you have to support it. If you have to “get ugly” to try to get your point across… you’re wrong! I’ve heard it said “there’s no excuse for ugliness.” I couldn’t agree more. Look for the gold in the PERSON across from you and do everything you can to bring it out. In other words, choose to focus on what’s good about them as a fellow human being with whom you have more in common than not.
The longer I’m on this planet the more I realize that life is all about relationships. Studies have repeatedly shown that the people happiest in life have healthy relationships. After a year (or more) of being physically distant from others let’s do everything we can to close the relational gaps between us. Committing to using manners with others (including social media) is a huge step toward achieving relational harmony and improving the quality of life for you as well as everyone else around you.